Being Okay With You – Part 2

In the last post we discussed trauma wounds and how they effect your ability to be okay with you. In this post, I want to discuss lies. Your enemy has a knack for lies. He’s very good at spinning a tale that’s so believable you might think it’s Bible truth. Here’s the good news: Scripture says that you can know the truth and the truth will set you free!

Recognizing the lie can be a bit tricky, because the devil loves to wrap the lie in a truth. The thing is, the truth he uses is never God’s truth but your truth. You see, often, your truth is very different from God’s truth. Your truth is based on what your five senses experience, so when you see that there’s no money in the bank account and the bills aren’t being paid despite your working 60 hours week your truth is that you’re broke, busted, and disgusted. Your truth is based on what you’re experiencing in the natural, but God’s truth is based on His nature and what He’s doing in the spiritual.

The devil will take your truth and wrap it around the lie. He might even throw in a little scripture just to make it more believable. So in the above situation, you see broke, busted, and disgusted and the devil tells you that you’re a loser and a failure, that you’ll never amount to anything. He might even use some biblical truth about how a little folding of the hands makes a man poor, and since you come home and collapse on the couch, zoning out to the television, this must also apply to you and must be the reason you can’t get ahead. Oh, if you would just work a little harder, do a little more, maybe you’d get ahead, but in the end you’re just a loser and a failure.

Perhaps you grew up in an abusive home and you believe that you aren’t good for anything except being a punching bag and sex toy. This is the truth under which you live, because this is what your five senses experience. The devil takes this false truth and wraps it around the lie that you are worthless, that you are a horrible person, and that you deserve everything you’re suffering. Oh, and for a little extra jab, he may even tell you that no one – not even God – cares whether you live or die. Is any of this sounding familiar?

I could give a hundred examples of how your truth is based on your senses. God’s truth, however, isn’t based on what you experience but on what He has and is doing. In the first situation, God’s truth is that the provision is already on the way. He may also see the resentment, doubt, and unforgiveness you’re holding that’s keeping His provision from flowing. In the second situation, God’t truth is that He loves you more than you understand, that it wasn’t His will for you to experience the abuse, that He cannot go against the choices others make, and that you CAN be free.

God’s truth is vastly different than ours, because He sees from His perspective, through His own eyes, with an understanding of what is taking place in the unseen. To break the lies, you must look at God’s truth in each situation. It can be a hard thing to do, because most of us, for most of our lives, have been taught to look at what we can sense with our natural selves as being truth and reality. We have to completely retrain ourselves to look beyond the natural.

So, let me help you here. Science has proven that the world in which you live is made up of both seen and unseen. Science has proven that the average human only uses about 5% of their total brain capacity. Science has also proven that the other 95% becomes active during spiritual activity. Essentially, 95% of everything you experience is unseen, spiritual stuff. Science has also proven that there are as many as 10 dimensions, the majority of which are unseen by the average human senses. If science has recognized that the unseen has more reality than the seen, isn’t it time to discover what’s in the unseen that’s effecting you?

Okay, so with all the sciency stuff out of the way, let’s get back to these lies. The scriptures call the devil the father of lies. The only time he isn’t lying is… well, he’s always lying, even when he’s not speaking, so there’s never a time when he isn’t. He is very good at making his lies seem like truth, though.

One of the biggest and most successful lies he ever told me was that God visits the sins of the fathers upon the children to the third and fourth generation, and because of this, all the abuse I suffered as a very young child was because God was mad at my parents, grandparents, or great-grandparents. Do you see how he spun the tale? He took the abuse I had suffered and the questions I had about why I went through all that, and he wrapped it in a little truth backed by scripture. My truth was that God was cruel and would punish a young child for something she didn’t even do. God’s truth was that the curse was revoked before the cross and demolished at the cross, that not is He not mad at anyone but He loves me very much.

At this point, you’re probably thinking, that’s all well and good, but how do I identify the lie? I’m so glad you asked! Identifying the lie requires you being willing to look at the possibility that what you believe really is a lie. Look at what you believe and compare it with what God says in scripture. If ANY part of what you believe doesn’t line up with scripture, then it’s a lie. You can often see the lie doing this comparison. As you identify lies, you can break them using the steps below.

Sometimes, lies aren’t so easy to identify; they just aren’t obvious. You can ask Holy Spirit to help you identify the lies you can’t see or don’t know exist, and He will show them to you. Here are some steps you can take to identify and break the lies in your life:

  1. Ask the Lord to reveal the lie. You may hear a phrase, see a quick memory or image, or get just an impression. When you understand what the lie is, write it down.
  2. Ask the Lord what HIS truth is concerning that lie. He will tell you what HE sees, and it’s often vastly different and completely opposite of the lie. Write it down.
  3. Repent for believing the lie. Believing the lie creates a legal right for the devil to keep you under the lie. Repenting removes his right to mess with you.
  4. Renounce the lie. Doing this means you are saying that you choose to no longer believe the lie.
  5. Take the thought captive unto the obedience of Jesus Christ. This is the scriptural way to handle lofty and wrong thoughts, and a lie is both.
  6. Declare and receive God’s truth. By saying it out loud, you are causing your natural self to hear the words, which causes them to affect your heart. Remember, too, it isn’t enough to hear the words; you must also believe them.

So for those who need a little script, here you go:

Lord, I repent for believing the lie that (insert lie here exactly as you wrote it). I renounce this lie and take every thought captive unto the obedience of Christ Jesus. I pull down ever lofty thing associated with it that has exalted itself against the Kingdom of God. I declare and receive the truth of the word of God, which says that (insert truth here as God gave it to you) in the name of Jesus.

Short and simple. If you’ll take 15 minutes each day to ask the Lord about the lies in your life, you will begin to walk in more freedom. You will begin to see yourself differently, and it won’t be long before being okay with you seems like the normal and natural thing to do.

It’s time for you to be okay with the beautiful masterpiece that is you. It’s time for you to stand up and see yourself through God’s eyes, and breaking the lies that have kept you bound will help you begin to step into that place.

You are beautiful! You are amazing! There’s no one God loves more than you! He thinks you’re the cat’s meow! It’s time you see yourself as He sees you!


If you need or want help walking through forgiveness issues or lies, we can help. Destiny Ministry was created for just this purpose. It’s free; your freedom was already paid for by Jesus. We pray with you and for you as we help you walk with Holy Spirit to overcome those difficult places so that you can attain the freedom that is rightfully yours. Check out the Destiny Ministry page for more info.

Be Okay With You – Part 1

Being okay with you can be one of the most difficult and most fulfilling things you ever accomplish. Being okay with you means fully accepting everything about you – your flaws, your imperfections, your weaknesses, your skills, your talents, and your strengths. In a world that teaches you that you’ll never measure up or be good enough, being okay with you will cause you to soar.

Being okay with you can be one of the most difficult and most fulfilling things you ever accomplish. Being okay with you means fully accepting everything about you – your flaws, your imperfections, your weaknesses, your skills, your talents, and your strengths. In a world that teaches you that you’ll never measure up or be good enough, being okay with you will cause you to soar.

Being okay with you means your human need to be accepted, to belong, and to be of value is fulfilled. The world teaches that other people must meet those needs, and for most, these needs are never fulfilled. However, for the follower of Jesus, these needs are met through the love Father has for you.

Your soul incurs wounds from trauma events throughout life. You don’t have to suffer actual injury or loss to get a trauma wound. Trauma wounds can occur from any event, real or perceived. For instance, a trauma wound can occur because Sally criticized your work (actual event) or because you thought Johnny was rejecting you (perceived event) when really he was protecting you. The pain from the perceived rejection is just as real as the pain from the criticism, and both can cause a trauma wound.

Trauma wounds are lies that have embedded themselves in your soul, causing fractures or breaks in your soul. In the examples above, the lie is “I’m not good enough, talented enough, or desirable enough.” These lies have to be addressed and the wounds healed s that the soul can be made whole again, and your perspective begins to shift toward what God really sees.

In many cases, you can address trauma wounds yourself, just between you and Jesus. When you recognize an event that caused you to feel hurt, angry, rejected, ashamed, condemned, or guilty you can address the wound and receive healing. Here are some basic steps:

  1. Forgive every person involved in the event, if they were only bystanders, and release them from your judgement. This removes any ungodly veils, cords, or links between you and them that the devil might use to add insult to your injury. Say out loud, “I forgive every person who had any involvement in this wound for their part in it, and I release them from my judgement and into God’s hands.
  2. Forgive yourself. You might be the victim here, but you believed the lie that was presented. This releases you from the weight of the sin of believing a lie. Say out loud, “Self, I forgive you for believing the lie and reacting to it. Your sin is forgiven.”
  3. Repent for believing the lie. This removes any accusation the devil may be trying to use against you concerning this lie. Say out loud, “Lord, I repent for believing the lie of the enemy. I ask that it be removed from the hand of the accuser of the brethren and covered under the blood of Jesus. I receive Your forgiveness.”
  4. Ask the Lord to wash the wound clean and show you the truth. This removes the residue of the lie and replaces it with God’s truth. Say out loud, “Lord, please wash this wound in the blood of Jesus. Cleanse it of all unrighteousness. Please show me Your truth concerning this event.”
  5. Ask Jesus to heal your soul. Remember that trauma wounds cause fractures or breaks in the soul. Jesus mends those breaks. Say out loud, “Jesus, please take this part of me that has been broken and make me whole again as only You can.”

By dealing with trauma wounds in this manner, you can receive a great deal of healing in your soul. As you receive healing, your perception, vision, and understanding of how God sees you begins to change. This is just the beginning of learning to be okay with you.


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True Worship

Let’s talk about worship for a moment. As Christians, we are raised up and taught that worship occurs on Sunday or Wednesday during the worship part of service when there’s music playing and someone leading us in worship. Or perhaps in the car with your favorite worship song. We aren’t taught how to worship the Lord with our hearts. We were taught to follow a program, but a program isn’t what Jesus said He was looking for.

Jesus said that the day would come when the true worshipers would worship in spirit and in truth. There is no program to worshiping in spirit and truth. This kind of worship is intimate, personal, and radically different than singing some worship songs that give you goose bumps. This kind of worship can’t be led by a worship leader.

Wait. What’s wrong with worshiping to music? Absolutely nothing. In fact, music serves its purpose in many areas of worship. It’s just that true worship isn’t activated by music. It isn’t activated by someone else. It’s activated by your deep desire for the presence and glory of the Lord. Music can compliment and even open dimensions of Heaven, but true worship begins not with a note played but with the condition of the heart.

So let’s talk about the condition of your heart. The condition of your heart is determined by your desire for the Lord. If there is anything you desire more than Him, then the condition of your heart can be tarnished. This doesn’t mean that you aren’t fighting a stronghold. It means that even in the midst of your stronghold, you desire the Lord more than the stronghold and you are willing to keep fighting until you are free from that which is keeping you from a deeper relationship with Father. This is the kind of desire that is found in deep, unconditional, childlike love. In the midst of whatever you’re facing, are you pursuing God first or are you pursuing an answer, an object, a circumstance, a person, or anything else other than God? If you are, then you are operating in idolatry, and you need to do a heart check. A pure heart doesn’t pursue anything more than it pursues God.

How do you worship, I mean really worship? Well, think about who God is to you and what He has done for you. Begin to express that out loud. Keep doing it. Don’t stop. This causes your mind to begin to focus on God. It won’t be long before your heart will follow suit. As you do this, there comes a time when your mind, heart, and spirit begin to worship in unison. That’s the beginning of worshiping in spirit and in truth.

Perhaps as you’re reading this, you’re thinking something like, “I can’t do that! Someone will hear me! They’ll think I’m crazy or a fanatic!” That thought process is a whole other issue that we will deal with in a different post. For now, until you become comfortable worshiping out loud, do this in your private prayer time. If you don’t have a daily private prayer time, you need to make this a priority habit. More on the importance of daily personal prayer time on another post.

For now, focus on building a relationship with Father through honest, true worship. Think of it like this: you have a relationship with God, and you need to cultivate that relationship. Relationship experts relate how all good relationships have a mutual positive exchange. The parties spend time together and offer affirmations to each other. This helps build trust and intimacy in the relationship. Well, the same God who designed relationships to work this way is after the same relationship with you.

Worship is that time you spend with God speaking out affirmations of who He is and what He has done for you. The more you enter this kind of worship, the more you begin to trust Him. True worship leads you to a place of intimacy with Father that you won’t get in any other way.

I’ll do a follow up post, but for now, begin to practice worshiping. No one can really teach you how to do this. It’s something you have to learn to do. Practice this. Yeah, it may be uncomfortable at first, but soon, you’ll find that you are stepping into it and there’s nothing like it.

Stop the Battle

We have been so trained throughout church history to fight battles ourselves. Father never intended for you to fight any battle yourself. He intended that you have the authority to stop the battle in its tracks. No fighting on your part. No striving or strategizing on your part.

Did your mind immediately go to the verses that tell you to put on your armor? Why would you need armor if you’re not in a battle? I didn’t say you’re not in a battle; I said it’s Father’s desire that you stop the battle in its tracks. Look at Ephesians 6:11-13 (NKJV).

 11 Put on the whole armor of God, that you may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil. 12 For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this age, against spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places. 13 Therefore take up the whole armor of God, that you may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand.

In putting on the whole armor of God, you are to STAND. In standing, you resist the devil and he flees (James 4:7). You use your armor to quench the fiery darts of the enemy – the lies, the trials, the temptations. Truth, righteousness, peace, faith, salvation, and the Word of God cause the enemy to flee. Hold fast to these, and you will stop the battle in its tracks.

As a son of God, you have the authority to command the enemy. You are God’s son and the devil’s master. When you speak the truth of God’s word and will, Heaven agrees and Hell obeys. You’ve been so busy running from and fighting the devil that you haven’t thought about commanding him.

Take a look at Matthew 10:7-8 (NKJV).

7  And as you go, preach, saying, ‘The kingdom of heaven is at hand.’ Heal the sick, cleanse the lepers, raise the dead, cast out demons. Freely you have received, freely give.

Do you see verse 8? Show me where it says we are to fight. It’s not there, because it was never intended for you to fight. It was intended for you to take your rightful place in the Kingdom and command with the authority Jesus gave you. When you speak with the authority of Jesus, the sick are healed, the diseased are cured, the dead live, and the demons leave. It’s not a battle; it’s an overthrow.

Back to the armor for a moment. Satan knows if you ever step into your true position as God’s son and learn to exercise the true authority Jesus has given you, he won’t be able to do anything. He sets out to stop you before you figure it out, and if you do begin to figure it out, he will set out to try to change your mind about it. Your armor – the belt of truth, the breastplate of righteousness, shoes of the gospel of peace, the shield of faith, the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit – allows you to recognize and stand firm against his attacks.

Now, if you stand in your position and authority with your armor on, with Jesus by your side, you will never actually fight the battle. Rather, you’ll command according to the authority Jesus gave you and stop the battle in its tracks. No, it won’t stop Satan from trying, but it will stop the battle in its tracks.

Now, let me address for just a moment the one thing that gives Satan the LEGAL right to attack – sin. Paul said in Hebrews 12:1 that sin can easily ensnare us. Sin is agreement with the dark kingdom, and when you are in agreement with anything of the dark kingdom, you give Satan legal right to operate in your life. So, when you are standing and and feeling like you’re being beaten down, ask the Lord what has given legal right to the enemy. The moment He shows you, be quick to agree with the charge and to repent for it. Then apply the blood of Jesus to it and give thanks for God’s forgiveness and mercy. Then get back to your standing.

Beloved, Father gave you the right of a son in the Kingdom of Heaven. Jesus, who has been given all authority in Heaven and Earth, has delegated authority to you, making you an ambassador of the Kingdom of Heaven. Satan, who was defeated by the One with all authority, must bow to the command of an ambassador who speaks in the name of Jesus. Don’t fight the battle; stop the battle in its tracks.

Prophetic Word 2016

Welcome to 2016. This year has been called a year of victory, of restoration, of breakthrough, of hope.

While in prayer, I saw many great battles taking place. In the end, it was the children of God – the ones who didn’t give up, the ones who persevered, the ones who were willing to stand and fight – who let out the victory cries. The Lord is your victory, but you will have to stand your ground and not give in or give up. I heard the Lord say, “I know the battle has been long, and I have seen you stand in the face of everything that has come against you. I know that you are weary, but stand firm, for the victory will be yours.”

This year, we can expect many things to shift and change. For many, this year will bring forth victory in areas where they have been fighting for restoration, breakthrough, and hope. For some, the victories will be life-altering. For others, they will be faith building. Don’t give up, don’t give in. Stand firm, because this is a year for hope, for restoration, for breakthrough, and for victory!